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Thursday, 13 December 2012

Of Selfishness and Change




I am here; curled up on a sofa in my corner with a cup of steaming coffee and the laptop. There is something increasingly calm about occupying a place where you can sit quietly and observe everything but people ignore you, because you are almost invisible in that spot. It lovely having a piece of mind without anyone around to pry or engage you, and at times these are the very moments that one craves. The ‘me-times’. Are we really selfish beings that don’t care about what goes around? Or do we just care too much?
I think it’s the latter. We care a little too much about others, about what goes around that we forget to pay the required attention to ourselves. To look at ourselves and think of where we might need grooming. No, we are too worried about how the others should behave, dress and speak etc. that we don’t even mind our own. We pay no mind to our own activities as we set on the journey to create a better world.
Change starts from within, from us. We can never bring a change that we want unless we alter ourselves to it first, there cannot be change if we ourselves refuse to change. With every little modification we make in ourselves we grow up a little, we become wiser, we progress and this development only can let us change the world for better.
We need the ‘me-times’; we need them to become a little selfish, to give ourselves a thought and a cleansing. Without being selfish we can never accept being ourselves and without having the confidence of being ourselves we cannot accept nor bring a change. Change from within, change for the betterment not for acceptance.

-Momina. 


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14 comments:

  1. You're quite right in that in order to change, we have to take some time out, and take a good hard look at ourselves. After that we also need to accept we might not be able to change what we want.

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    1. I totally agree with you, Mark. Somethings should not change, and that should be accepted too.

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  2. We also have to accept the fact that when we do change, others may still not agree or like the change we have made within ourselves. So no matter how often we change, there will always be people who won't accept us. Is that something we can live with?

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    1. That's something we 'should' live with! Change shouldn't be about being accepted, the most beautiful thing is changing for ourselves, and accepting that!

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  3. We ignore the one person we can have the most impact on- ourselves. Self introspection is as important as bathing. A change for the better must always be encouraged.

    Absolutely agree with you on this.

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    1. Yes, it should! Sadly, people very often ignore the basic step of looking themselves over.
      Thank you Sui!

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  4. thats like a page from a novel...

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    1. Ah, how I wish I'd get there! :) Thank you for such a reference!

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    1. Even if it isn't we'll be learning something. Thanks for dropping by!

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